Part 3 Continuing Series on “What You Need to Know to Find the Right One

Understanding Number 7: 

Having no boundaries means you give yourself permission to feel good around him allow him to make you feel wonderful. Right here is where everything changes. You make a conscious decision to seek his compliments, gifts, adoration, caring, and listening. You will see if he brings out the best in you and if he is powerful or has powerful connections you will most likely dive in head first. Does Donald Trump really think those chicks love him for his hair? It is why groupies flock to rock stars like moths to a flame. So be aware of the lure of power. Staying aware of what is happening in your brain and understanding that it is not some cosmic divine connection but simply chemicals will help you maintain objectivity if you put the following boundaries in place.

Understanding Number 8: 

  • Boundaries are : not having sex and not being too vulnerable when you are around him until you have discussed the following issues–
  • Children
  • Money
  • Sex
  • Fidelity
  • In-Law boundaries
  • Shared household responsibilities
  • Alchohol and drug over indulgence

If you feel it is too early to have those conversations but not to early to have sex then your priorities are reversed.  If you are serious about finding the right guy then you have to have these conversations before hand. These are why marriages crash and burn. If you still think it’s too early just think about this: most of those questions are addressed in simple roommate agreements.

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