How To Start To Like People Again
Applying your new awareness in public settings like I described in my last blog can be a very eye-opening exercise. Here are a few more things to be aware of; Take note if you automatically avoid eye contact when in public. See if you do this in some places but not others. Try to get a sense of whether you are feeling vulnerable, insecure, guilty, or just unwanted. I have noticed how people do this when first walking through the door into my gym, but then they loosen up and start making some eye contact after they begin exercising. Maybe it’s the common goal they have there; it’s like they remind themselves, “It’s OK; I am expected to be here.” See if you can name what you are feeling at each place you go. Like the doctor’s office, store, bank, post office, gym, or theater.
You may notice that at place where you have to wait to be served, that you tend to see the others as obstacles because typically you have to wait for them to get done before you can be taken care of. Initially, we walk into a store and see how much time this will cost us before we even think about a price. On the opposite side, I have actually noticed slight feelings of guilt when I am in line somewhere and another has to wait for me. (But that could just be my Catholic school guilt; let me know if that happens to you.)